Are Soulmates Real? What the Bible Says About Soulmates

The Story We Want to Believe

There’s something intoxicating about the idea of soulmates—the belief that somewhere in this world, there is one person created just for you, the missing half of your heart, the one who will make everything in your life finally make sense. It’s in the books we read, the movies we watch, the stories we tell ourselves about love.

And maybe, deep down, you’ve wondered: Is this how love is supposed to work? Does God create one person for each of us?

We want the reassurance that there is certainty in love—that if we just wait, if we just pray hard enough, if we just hold onto faith, the right person will eventually appear, perfectly made for us, with no real work required.

But is that really what the Bible teaches?

Love, Free Will, and the God Who Lets Us Choose

The Bible speaks of love in powerful, sacred terms, but nowhere does it say that there is only one person chosen for you. In fact, Scripture consistently teaches that love is not about finding the perfect person but about choosing to love and committing to grow together.

If God only created one person for you, wouldn’t that mean that a single wrong decision—one missed opportunity—could throw everything off? That someone marrying the “wrong” person would start a chain reaction of misalignment, leaving generations of people with the wrong spouse? The logic doesn’t hold.

Instead, what we see in Scripture is a God who honors free will—who allows us to make choices and calls us to love, honor, and pursue relationships with wisdom and faith.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)

Love is not found; it is built. A healthy, godly marriage is not about finding the one person predestined for you but about becoming the kind of person who loves faithfully, selflessly, and with a heart aligned with God.

Does God Lead Us to the Right Person?

If soulmates, as the world defines them, do not exist, does that mean God is uninvolved in our relationships?

Not at all.

Throughout Scripture, we see that God guides, directs, and aligns relationships for His purposes. He brought Eve to Adam, orchestrated Ruth and Boaz’s story, and led Isaac to Rebekah through divine intervention. 

God does not force love upon us, but He does work through our choices, our faith, and even our missteps to bring about relationships that honor Him.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

God leads, but He does not dictate. He gives wisdom, but He does not override free will. A godly relationship is not about waiting for a sign but about walking in faith, seeking His will, and pursuing love with wisdom and intention.

A Love That Honors God, Not Destiny

The idea of soulmates can be dangerous because it teaches us that love should be effortless—like two puzzle pieces that simply fit. But real, godly love requires commitment, sacrifice, and the daily decision to choose one another.

It means loving when it’s hard. Choosing faithfulness when the feelings fade. Pursuing one another even when life is difficult.

When we believe in soulmates, we risk abandoning relationships too easily. We start wondering if we made the “wrong” choice the moment things get hard. We assume that if we are with the right person, everything should be smooth, easy, and full of constant passion. But the Bible doesn’t teach love that is effortless—it teaches love that endures.

1 Corinthians 13 doesn’t say love is found. It says love is patient, kind, not self-seeking, always protecting, always persevering. Love is not written in the stars; it is written in the daily choices we make to honor, forgive, and cherish one another.

The Answer That Changes Everything

We spend so much time searching for certainty in love, convinced that the right person will appear as if written into the script of our lives. We imagine that when we meet them, we’ll just know—that love will be undeniable, fated, effortless. But love rarely announces itself that way.

If soulmates existed as the world imagines them, love would be something we stumble into, a force that binds two people together regardless of their choices. But the truth is, love is something far greater: it is a daily decision, an intentional act, a commitment that does not waver when emotions do.

Soulmates exist, not because they are assigned to us from the beginning of time, but because we create them through the way we love. The moment we stand before God and vow to love someone, to be faithful in both joy and hardship, to honor them when it’s easy and when it’s not—that is when a soulmate is made. Not in a single moment of destiny, but in the countless moments that follow, where love is chosen again and again.

So maybe the real question isn’t Do soulmates exist? but rather, Am I willing to choose someone, to love them deeply and faithfully, until they become my soulmate? Because love is not something that happens to us. It is something we create, something we nurture, something we make real.

💛 The Salt & Light Family